She's Attractive, Friendly, and Divorced 

She's the mother of a beautiful daughter and Nana to her wonderful grandchildren. However, she never experienced a healthy, loving, committed relationship with a man she really loved until she was in her late fifties.

WHY? WHAT WAS WRONG?

Why didn't she find her true love sooner? Was it her? Was it the men she dated? Was it the way she dated? It may have been her. She didn't have a good parental example of what a healthy, loving relationship looked like. She had a father who didn't know how to be affectionate or say I love you. Her father beat her mother, and being the oldest, it was her responsibility to run next door and call the police each time things got heated (no cell phones back then). Her mother finally left her father when she was fourteen.

Having no loving father example at home, she turned to other men for male approval. Unfortunately, she didn't understand that men are very sexual beings, and many men want sex even when they don't want a relationship. She eventually learned that just because a man wants to have sex is not a good reason to have sex with him.

When she was fifteen, she lost her virginity. It was the day she was raped by an acquaintance: no love, no affection, no gentleness or caring, just trauma. At seventeen, she found herself pregnant and in a shotgun wedding. He cheated on her several times before she finally divorced him.

By now, you have probably guessed that I am the young woman in this story. It wasn't but a few years later, I was raped again. I am not telling you all this for you to feel sorry for me but to give you the biggest picture possible of not only what happened to me but why I have a passion to advocate for and educate singles on dating with healthy values and to help singles find love the quickest and easiest way possible. (What happened to me and worse are happening to multitudes of women every day in America.)

No More Dating

In my early 20s, I came to the point where I was too frustrated and discouraged to date anymore. At that time, my self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth had dropped down past ground level and settled into a deep pit. I stopped wearing make-up and nice clothes. I no longer wanted to be attractive. It was so bad that I couldn't even look men in the eye to talk to them. If I walked into a room and men turned to look, my head would go down, and my eyes would look at the floor.

After six years of not dating, I realized all my single friends and family members were married. I really wanted to be married, but I was stuck in what I call the Knight in Shining Armor Syndrome. I was waiting for my Prince Charming to ride up on his beautiful white horse, knock on my door, and hand me flowers. He would help me up on his beautiful white horse and we would ride off to Happily Ever After!

Then I Came to My Senses

I knew deep down inside that to have an intimate relationship with someone, I would have to learn how to interact with men again as friends first. To start interacting with men again, I needed to knock down the walls I had put up to protect myself. What a dilemma!

My decision was to interview single men like a reporter. This way, I could learn about what they wanted in a woman, in a dating relationship, and in a marriage. Also, I could do it all in a way that I would not have to deal with the pressures of the dating scene. Boy, oh boy! What a challenge!

What a Success!
It was just what I needed. The men were wonderful, and I was surprised at their openness and desire to share their thoughts and feelings about women, love, sex, and dating. I interviewed literally hundreds of men. That was very exciting and extremely educating! I learned so much and developed some great friendships from that experience. I'm still interviewing to this day. Even though that was great, the best was yet to come.

This experience turned me on and pumped me up! I found my hot button and area of personal passion. My self-confidence came back, and I started a singles group at my church and then started working with hundreds of singles across the Tampa Bay area.

The more dating and relationship books I read and relationship seminars I attended, the more my fascination grew. A passion started growing in me to help singles, including myself, have better relationships. With increased confidence, I started dating again.

Over the years, I studied under many dating and relationship experts and Ph.D.'s. I flew all over the country and even participated in several marriage enrichment programs. I desired to learn all I could about healthy, loving relationships, which I didn't experience as a child, or young adult. Also, I desired to know how to handle relationship problems before they came up, not waiting until a problem came up and then seeing a therapist, as most problem marriages do.

This led to my obsession with information gathering. It was like pouring water on a dry sponge. I passed out hundreds of questionnaires all over the Tampa Bay area. Those results got me on the local news and eventually my own radio program.

Part of this sequence covered a ten-year period where I dove into my work, becoming a workaholic. I worked mostly at reaching out to singles by hosting events. These events ranged from candlelight dinner banquets and semi-formal dances to moonlight prayer on the beach. We had anywhere from thirty to one hundred-fifty singles in attendance.

During this period, I began holding seminars and workshops for single adults to share some of what I had learned. I wrote the Dating Pocket Guide and the Dating Differently books, set up an office, and hosted my local radio program called Integrity Singles. Later, singles started calling me a dating coach because I knew so much and was helping so many.

After writing my first published book on dating (under a pen name), I realized that all the books I knew of on the topic of dating, including mine, were people's attempts to deal with the symptoms of some much deeper dating problems. For years, I looked but could not find any books, teachers, instructors, dating coaches, singles leaders, or dating experts who were teaching the answers to these deeper core problems. So...

I Decided To Do It

I knew that to have success myself, I would have to find answers to those problems. I made a list of the problems and searched for answers for each of them. I also decided to come up with a different and better way to date. First, I went back in history to find what worked best. It was courtship. Then, I found a way to incorporate the good, healthy values and principles of courtship into today's society and lifestyle. I knew this new process also had to accommodate most ages, races, and religious preferences.

It took over a decade to complete. I knew I had something great when Jerry White walked me through the entire Heartled™ Dating process, and it very comfortably moved us from meeting to commitment and to marriage! Yahoo! All the research, study, and practice finally came together in an easy step-by-step process anyone can follow... from meeting to a lifetime commitment!

Over the Years

During my 40 years of dating I have been proposed to 6 times. I'm not saying this to be prideful, but to make a point. It simply proves that I have learned how to get a relationship to the place of deep love and commitment. It was a long road for me. Fortunately for you... you don't have to wait. Now it is all in the Heartled™ Dating Manual, to help you eliminate the dating confusion and frustration and to find love faster and easier.
 
Now You Can... Eliminate your dating confusion and frustration. stop repeating what is now outdated, and find love faster and easier with the Heartled Dating Manual.

Moving Forward

My desire is to help singles and young adults learn the Heartled Dating progression, to use it to meet quality people, as well as lay a strong foundation for long-term love and marriage. I ask you to please join me by spreading the word about Heartled Dating and the Heartled Dating Manual. Please tell your friends and post about it.

Man Approved

My husband, Jerry White, my White Knight, dated me with the Heartled Dating progression and we had an extremely enjoyable time. He told me to tell everyone that he said this process is Man Approved! While Heartled Dating he became convinced that all men and women should use this process to develop a healthy, loving relationship with a strong, secure foundation to build upon. We have been happily together since 2010, married since 2013 and Jerry still says he adores me and that I have him bewitched and captivated. He certainly is my Hero, Prince Charming, and Knight in Shining Armor.

One of my personal challenges in finding the perfect man for me was to find a man who could handle a woman who talks a lot and one whose passion is talking about and teaching relationship stuff. Most men have a hard time with even small amounts of it. This is why I am thrilled with Jerry. He truly is someone who can handle the larger doses and loves me through it all. Ladies, if you are a talker like me, be encouraged. There are more men like Jerry out there.

You Don't Have to Wait for Love

No one should have to wait fifty-eight years to find their perfect partner, as I did. You deserve to go through your life in the arms of your true love, not alone and searching. Now that I have been with my Mr. Right since 2010, I sometimes reflect-back on the reasons why I didn't find my perfect partner sooner.

Sure, I had a few other casual loves during that forty-year span, but never a deep, undying, wholehearted, unconditional love. Definitely-never with the perfect man for me. The others were nice men, good men, but not a perfect fit. Now I know the difference and want you to find your perfect partner also… not just another nice person. How to know who is your perfect partner is explained in my books and coursed on effective evaluating, Is He the One? and Is She the One?

Remember, I didn't find my husband until I learned what I was doing was outdated. And like you, I didn't know I was doing anything wrong. It was more because of my lack of knowledge. I just didn't know the best way to date and interact with the opposite sex. Once I learned and understood what the best way was and followed that path, it led me to a happily married life with a man who is perfect for me. Here you will learn what changes to make and you will be guided down a path that leads you into the arms of your perfect partner! 

I Have a Dream

You are part of that dream. In that dream, you are deeply and happily in love! This was my dream for me, and now it's my dream for you and singles all over the world. I want you to find true, deep, fulfilling love and not have to wait and search year after year.

More than forty years of my life have been spent searching for answers: the answers to finding love quicker and easier, to attracting quality dating partners, to recognizing a perfect partner, and to a dating process for those who want to date with integrity, high standards, and healthy values. I finally found those answers. And I am making them available to you in my Heartled Dating Manual and courses.

Where We Are Going

I have a mission to teach singles of all ages to become Heartled, to find another Heartled dating partner, to become a committed Heartled couple, and to raise Heartled children! This will help them find love quicker and easier, have a healthy, successful dating process to follow and have an effective way to evaluate; knowing without a doubt who their perfect partner is, becoming an example for others.

As the country embraces these new principles and a more successful dating process, we believe we will see a reduction in America's divorce rate and broken homes, rapes, domestic violence, unwanted pregnancies, abortions, teens and tweens having sex and the increasing spread of sexually transmitted diseases, which come from unhealthy dating and relationships.

As Heartled Singles become Heartled Couples across the country they will lay strong and solid foundations to their love relationships, they will be a better example for their children and grandchildren, friends and co-workers, helping their children and grandchildren to grow up with a better perspective of what true love and marriage should be.

Child influencers (parents, grandparents, teachers, churches, media, etc.) will teach children to grow up understanding these important principles and guidelines so they will NOT be drawn into America's hookup culture.

What you are being offered with the Heartled Dating Manual is meant for changing your life and the lives of your single friends, family members, co-workers, children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and the future of America!

My goal is to turn America's hookup culture into a Heartled Dating culture... with your help!

Now, it is time to start with you moving through this exciting adventure to find love! It is time to become a hero for those who are watching you. Get Started Now!

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